How do you know when you are coaching ?

So far I have looked at creating a standard, by which to coach; and establishing a coaching relationship. However, there is one question that often perplexes us: how do you know if you are coaching? Reflection is the key but, even then, there has to be some sort of standard, against which to measure ourselves. The following pointers can help - the focus is on coaching generally - more so, than coaching in a safety critical environment. It is probably helpful to look at these points in the context of being parked at the side of the road, holding a coaching conversation.

As a coach you must be flexible and be able to be in that moment with your client fully immersed in their thoughts, feelings and behaviours.

Good coaches have great intuition and can trust their own instincts but it is so important that you take the time to check your gut reaction.

It is okay as a coach not to know the answers and sometimes to take a risk to see what path the conversation goes down, you can always bring it back but it may open up hidden insights into your client's behaviour.

There are many ways to work with your clients - you should be able to choose in the moment what is the most effective tool to help your client achieve their goals.

​Humour is great but banter can be destructive - humour should be light and have a feeling of energy.

Remember you have your clients confidentiality at heart and must respect that at all times no matter how much you think it is worth sharing with the greater ADI community. If you do, ask permission and get it in writing.

You should also be aware that during coaching some strong emotions may be present - you must manage yourself and not be overpowered by your client's strong emotional content. It is a professional and business relationship that is fundamental to keeping your client engaged with you.

If you are interested in coaching and want to develop your skills further then contact us at Tri-Coaching Partnership for an informal discussion.