"You are not listening to ME!"
Communicating effectively and having developed listening skills is crucially important in a Client Centred Learning relationship. In fact, listening is just as important as speaking.
So why is listening so important?
No one likes to think they are being ignored or misunderstood, right? Being a good active listener makes your pupil feel involved; that they have a valid contribution to the discussion; that you value their feedback and are happy to hear their views, opinions and comments.
So how does listening help?
Effective listening helps you catch everything being communicated. It helps you better understand and solve problems your pupil has. It also helps you develop a stronger rapport. Effective listening means fewer misunderstandings between you and your pupil, less wasted time, less frustration and a faster learning experience.
"Effective listening is like panning for gold. If you are not intensely focused on everything being said you can miss a shiny, single nugget of information that makes all the difference."
So, if you are not completely 'tuned in' to your pupil, you can easily miss something that would have taken you down a more appropriate, completely different and unexpected learning path.
Catching what's being said, (and the importance of what's being said) means better opportunities to understand a pupil's thoughts, how they feel and what they believe. Something crucially important for a Client Centred Learning relationship.
“I see what you are saying!”
Sometimes it's not what is being 'said' that communicates a message. A pupil's body language and how they are reacting can give away a wealth of information that you would not want to miss.
Effective communication is not just about listening with our ears. It's also about listening with our eyes. What we see from our pupil's actions and reactions can be a valuable insight into what a pupil might be thinking, feeling and what emotional state they are in at that moment.
Consider how you look when you are angry, sad, relaxed, nervous, feeling ill or frustrated? Or, when you are happy or just thinking about something? Can you recognise your own body language?
What messages good or bad might this be giving off to your pupil?
Can you recognise your pupil's body language? Are you sensitive to it? What might this be telling you?
Here are five ways to improve your communication skills:
1) Face the pupil and give them your attention.
It is difficult to talk to someone who is constantly looking around. Make sure to face the pupil, maintain eye contact, and give them your undivided attention.
In Western cultures, eye contact is necessary for effective communication. Although shyness, uncertainty, living with autism or cultural taboos may inhibit eye contact, try your best to make sure the pupil knows that they have your full attention. Be considerate to pupils who may feel threatened by eye contact. You may have to find other ways of letting them know you are listening.
2) Keep an open mind.
Do not judge or mentally criticise what the pupil is telling you while they are speaking. Doing so can compromise your ability to take in what is being said. Never judge behaviour, as it compromises your effectiveness as a listener. You can evaluate what was said after the pupil is finished talking, but don’t do so while you are still listening to them.
3) Be patient.
Let the pupil finish what they are saying and don’t be a sentence-grabber. Interrupting a pupil or stopping them from finishing what they are saying can indicate disrespect to the pupil. Often, interrupting the pupil mid-sentence interrupts their train of thought and can easily destroy a productive conversation.
4) Active listening.
Active listening shows the pupil that you’re interested and is an important Coaching skill. Using active listening techniques helps to ensure that you correctly understand what is said. Your Q&A is important to check your understanding so as not to misinterpret what the pupil is saying.
Some ways of doing that include:• Paraphrasing back to the pupil what was said, to show understanding. • Non-verbal cues that you are listening like nodding, eye contact, etc.• Verbal responses to what's being said (“I understand,” “I know,” “Thank you,” etc.)• Demonstrating concern and establishing rapport.
5) Just listen!
Listen to keywords and phrases and do not rehearse what you are going to say after the pupil is done talking. Think about what the pupil is saying rather than what you are going to respond with. It is difficult to think of what you are going to say while also listening to the pupil. Be attentive and relaxed – don’t get distracted by your own thoughts and feelings.
Effective communication including speaking and listening skills are essential in building a Client Centred relationship. By being an attentive, active listener, you can understand more and be better able to deliver effective training around the DVSA Driver and Rider Training Standard.
The BTEC Level 4 Professional Award in Coaching for Driver Development helps you to develop and improve your communication and listening skills.
Click the link below to come and join Sally Kaur and myself on the start of a fantastic journey of personal development that will make your training stand out.
Ray
Ray Seagrave ADI, Tri-Coaching BTEC 4 Trainer


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About:
ROUTE 51 Pass your Standards Check
Route 51 can help you achieve top marks on your Standards Check.
It consists of:

• A Detailed Course Book

• Online materials

The Course Book will be delivered to your home address within a few days of purchasing Route 51. It is divided into six sections, each one focusing on a particular aspect of how to deliver a great lesson for your Standards Check. Structured practice and reflective logs will enhance your understanding, knowledge and skills of what you need to do to pass your Standards Check.
The online materials will be delivered to your email address via a series of emails with links to pre-recorded video webinars. The online webinars are also divided into the same six sections as the Course Book and can be watched alongside. With wifi access, you will be able to watch or just listen to the webinars on your mobile phone, for example, whenever or wherever you wish.
This course is ideal for you if:

• You want to improve your ability to deliver great lessons to your pupils
• You want to pass your Standards Check
• You were previously unsuccessful in your Standards Check
• You want to improve the grade or score you have at the moment
• You want to maintain the high standard you previously achieved

Route 51 - Pass your Standards Check costs £62.50 + VAT = £75 (monthly 3 x £25 or £15 per week x 5 weeks)

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ADI Train the Trainer Course
Are you interested in growing your driving school or expanding outside of your area; and would you love to have a ready-made training course that gives the trainee everything they need to become a great driving instructor?
Tri-Coaching Partnership has a complete driving instructor training package with 12 in-car sessions and a Course Book, which you can use to deliver your driving instructor training. Here are some great reasons why you might want to come on our two-day training course:

• You can choose to have the Tri-Coaching Instructor Training (TCIT) package dual-branded with your company name / logo
• You will be able to advertise that you run an instructor training course
• If you are not interested in delivering the course yourself, you could sell it and use a Tri-Coaching trainer to deliver it
• You will gain commission every time someone buys the TCIT package (whether or not it is dual-branded)
• The TCIT package will be updated and amended to keep current with legislation and DVSA requirements
• The TCIT package is mapped against the DVSA National Standards
• The TCIT package is not PST-focused and therefore is already positioned to meet the changes when the DVSA use the Standards Check instead of the Part 3
• You will be able to deliver your own in-car training, confident that the online course is developing in the trainee all the skills they need to become a driving instructor; or, you could follow the guidance notes we give you on the course about delivering the TCIT in-car sessions.

This two-day course will focus on how to update your training so that it is client-centred and will fit the DVSA National Driver and Rider Training Standard. You will be able to go away and start implementing these techniques into your ADI training and if you choose you can use the TCIT resource for your ORDIT qualification with the DVSA.
What happens on the course:
The first day will be spent in the classroom and the second day will be out in the car. The course looks at lesson planning, risk management, teaching and learning strategies and role play and focuses on training people to become driving instructors, rather than just getting them ready to pass a test. There are limited places available on each course so book early.
The course costs £600 including VAT (monthly payment is £200 x 3 or weekly payment of £50 x 12)
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52 Weekly Webinars
A new webinar is sent to you every week for a year. The information in the webinars covers all aspects of driver training from the Goals for Driver Education to the differences between coaching and instruction to the use of essential coaching skills of questioning, listening, feedback, intuition and rapport plus much, much more. Every week you will receive an email from us with a link to the webinar.You can download the webinar and save to your PC or SMART phone for viewing again whenever you want.
You can choose to pay for all 52 webinars with one payment of £60 or you can subscribe to the webinars and pay £6 a month for one year - a total of £72. All prices include VAT.

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An individual half day training session with a Tri-Coaching Approved Trainer on various topics including
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£150 per session

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A few of your questions answered.

• Q. Do you have to be a grade 'A' to take this course?
  A. No (however if you want to become ORDIT registered with the DVSA you will need to be a grade A)
  
  
• Q. Do I need previous experience in training my own instructors?
  A. No (Many of the attendees of this course have had no prior experience in instructor training)
  
  
• Q. Do I have to have my own training materials?
  A. No (We supply all of the training materials and, if you wish, you can have the materials dual branded to you for your customers to purchase and use)
  
  
• Q. Is there any support after the course?
  A. Yes (There is a huge amount of FREE support available after the course in marketing, delivery, advertising and peer support from others who have attended the course and are now using TCIT for their instructor training)

'M' became quite frustrated when he stalled trying to join a fast-moving roundabout. He mentioned that he would really want to sort that out during his next session, so we discussed his options. This is what we came up with...M had found his own way to move off which did not include the gas pedal in conjunction with the use of clutch. Most of the time it was not a problem of course. M had noticed the issue occasionally during the sessions, though he had not perceived it as an issue until now. As we know; ‘Learning Comes from Within’ so I am conscious of ‘task overload’ and aim for sessions to be challenging but not overwhelming. M is very focused on the actions and behaviours of other road users around him. He has a strong desire to “get it right!” as he calls it, so his focus upon others affects his thoughts and actions at the wheel. That outward focus on other road users results in overload and he is thrown into survival mode, so cannot think straight to drive safely and in control. Hence the plan for the ‘Bank Robbery Starts’! Of course, the discussion took a few minutes; I must say it was hilarious as M dove into the role play idea with his usual gusty enthusiasm! He came up with the idea of the masks and I said I would bring them next time. (a quick trip to eBay and the preparation was done) Having a Kinaesthetic preference to learning, M is always one to have a 'go'! and work out ‘how’ to do it!
So to this weeks session.
The practice area was a very quiet industrial area on a Saturday afternoon. We discussed the risks and who was going to keep us safe while he focused on the task at hand (his Goal). He knew the plan was to move the car from stationary as efficiently as possible whilst (tongue in cheek) being the ‘Get Away Driver’ of a bank heist! “I just want to be able to go fast and not stall or make the car ‘do that thing’” he said.
M had his first attempt at a ‘Bank Robbery Start’:
Robbery number 1: "Oh! That was rubbish - it nearly stalled and it was so slow! We'd have been nicked!"
Robbery Number 2: M said: "Oh That wasn't screechy enough!" Me: - "Oh? Can you explain that a little more please...?" M said: "In the films it is more noisy… " Me "That’s interesting.... what would you say they are they doing then?" M said: "Ohhhhh! They are revving the car so much more than me!!!”
For Robbery number 3: M said: "Sweet!"
The learning had come from within! M found a solution to the problem and because he ‘found it’ the learning will be more permanent.M is constantly developing his Self Reflection techniques during our sessions, helping him to become consciously adept at problem solving.
These skills mean that any ‘near-misses’ that he might have once he passes his test will be processed; and an action plan made to prevent them happening again.
Fiona Taylor ADI BTEC 4 Trainer
You can join Fiona on the BTEC 4 in Milton Keynes in September, and remember, throughout July we are offering some amazing discounts on all our 'BTEC Level 4 Professional Award in Coaching for Driver Development' courses.
These discounts will be available on ALL listed courses and will apply to ALL payment options.They will vary during the month from 5% / 10% / 15% or a massive 20% discount. So,

• choose your course,
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• click the 'add to cart button' and the discount will be applied.

Don't delay your booking as the discounts will vary during the month and the top discount will only be available on selected days.
*Offer only valid for bookings made during July 2019
BTEC 4 Maidstone
11th July 2019The dates for Maidstone are:
Module 1 – Thursday 11th July 2019
Module 2 – Friday 11th October 2019
Module 3 – Thursday 16th January 2020
Module 4 – Monday 20th April 2020
In-car – Sunday 19th April 2020

Follow this link to book for Maidstone then just Click Payment Option and 'add to cart' for your discountBTEC 4 Milton Keynes 12th September 2019The dates for Milton Keynes are:
Module 1 - 12th September 2019
Module 2 - 4th December 2019
Module 3 - 3rd March 2020
Module 4 - 8th June 2020
In-Car - 7th June 2020

Follow this link to book for Milton Keynes then just Click Payment Option and 'add to cart' for your discountBTEC 4 Larkhall nr Glasgow
26th September 2019The dates for Glasgow are:
Module 1 – Thursday 26th September 2019
Module 2 – Tuesday 14th January 2020
Module 3 – Monday 6th April 2020
Module 4 – Monday 6th July 2020
In-car – Sunday 5th July 2020

Follow this link to book for Glasgow then just Click Payment Option and 'add to cart' for your discountBTEC 4 Nottingham/Derby
25th September 2019The dates for Nottingham/Derby are:
Module 1 – Wednesday 25th September
Module 2 – Thursday 9th January 2020
Module 3 – Monday 6th April 2020
Module 4 – Monday 6th July 2020
In-car Sunday 5th July

Follow this link to book for Nottingham/Derby then just Click Payment Option and 'add to cart' for your discountBTEC 4 Huddersfield
5th November 2019Dates for Huddersfield are:
Module 1 – 5th November 2019
Module 2 –5th February 2020
Module 3 – 6th May 2020
Module 4 –10th August 2020
In-car – 9th August 2020

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​BTEC 4 Telford
18th November 2019The dates for Telford are:
Module 1 – 18th November 2019
Module 2 – 17th February 2020
Module 3 – 18th May 2020
Module 4 – 17th August 2020
In-car – 16th August 2020